q) I was involved in a pretty serious bus crash. Ever since I’ve had a rabid phobia of buses, I’m scared of buses. I can’t see the number 5a without breaking into a sweat. I don’t drive so am catching taxi’s everywhere, this is quite expensive. How would you recommend I conquer my fear of buses? Barry
Well Baz, we at Understanding Uncles are no replacement for a qualified therapist, however, we’ll do our best. How about starting off with something a bit easier, like a minibus?
Although we know phobias are rarely based in reason try to bear in mind that a bus is one of the most secure forms of transport on the road. Should a bus crash into a car it isn’t the bus people who’ll die. Bus drivers tend to drive quite slowly and on residential roads, this reduces the risk greatly.
Your crash, we understand, must have been quite traumatic but you can’t allow it to affect your life and ruin your finances. Seek out a therapist, you should be able to get one free on the NHS as your trauma is seriously debilitating your life happiness.
Maybe talk to some bus drivers or do some research to find out statistics for Bus accidents, you’ll find they’re pretty low. Take small steps, maybe a single ticket just five minutes down the road with a friend. We believe in you Barry, you can do this.
q) I’ve just started seeing a girl. This girl is unaware I have a five year old child with another woman and I’m afraid to mention it in case it scares her off. I quite like this girl. She fit AND funny. How do I break the news? Jimmy
We at Understanding Uncles are experts at breaking bad news to the ladies, we do it almost daily when we tell them “Sorry, we’re taken”. May we suggest getting her liquored up?
Take her to a restaurant, the posher the better. Treat her to a fancy meal, get a few glasses of extra-strength chardonnay down her throat and then say “I got something to tell you, I’ve put it off because I like you so much but it’s something you need to know – I have a child”.
Even if she’s very angry she’ll probably not make a scene just because you’re in the middle of an expensive restaurant. To be honest Jimmy this child is a part of your life and any girl who can’t accept your child is just not worth it. We at Understanding Uncles often point out to people that when you’re with someone they need to accept you for who you are and everything that comes with you.
Break it gently, she shouldn’t react too badly at the time but only time can tell if you and her shall make a go of it. Who knows, maybe she’s a good un.
q) I was rudely spoken to by a policeman. I saw a bit of a commotion and thought I’d investigate, make sure everyone was alright – after all I am a trainee doctor. As I approached the officer and said, politely, “What’s happening?” I was rudely told to “Go Away and mind your business!”. What cheek! I could have helped. If anyone died at that accident scene it’s on that mans shoulders. Since this incident I have found myself lacking in confidence, unable to approach people. I considered writing the officer a letter but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. What should I do? Anon.
We sympathise with your position but you must understand the police have quite a difficult job. They’re probably 
approached by people taking the mick every day so when they’re approached by a genuine medical student who could’ve helped they reacted callously.
This was wrong, but you can’t hold it against them and most importantly you can’t let it dent your self confidence, it was just a concerned policeman concentrating on his job. I mean, you’re a medical student, you lot are meant to be cocky – don’t let your confidence dip over such a minor incident. How would you feel if someone came in during a bout of surgery and asked “What’s happening?”
Exactly. Chill, relax, have a drink. Don’t worry – Be Happy.
That’s it for this week, come back soon for more brilliant answers to your curious questions. Keep those queries coming in! Be happy.
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